New Baby in Pack
The response from friends and family when told my wife and I were expecting our first child was, “Harry’s nose will be put out of joint!” I was determined our three-year-old Lab’s nose would not be put out, nor would he be shooed outside, away from the “new baby in the pack”.
I was confident Harry would accept our child. In part my confidence was based on his breed: Labradors are generally good family dogs. Harry had also been exposed to our nephews and nieces and friends’ children. And Harry had had three years of training at my local dog club.
Robin Barker in her book “The Mighty Toddler” (Macmillan, 2002) recommends parents “train [their] dog to obey commands. For example, Sit, Come and Stay.” These are basic commands for a well-trained dog, like Harry. And they are the foundation upon which further training and control are built.
When my wife came home from the hospital, she greeted Harry on her own to let him get over the excitement of seeing her again. Then I carried our son into the house and laid his bassinette on the floor while my wife held Harry’s collar.
Our son was unwrapped so Harry could see he was a mini-us, with arms and legs. Harry sniffed him and gave him little licks. If Harry got too vigorous, my wife pulled his collar, commanded “Gentle” and praised his good response.
“Gentle” proved an excellent command for checking over exuberance in Harry and in our son as he got older and played more with Harry, starting with tail and ear pulling!
Four-and-a-half years have passed. There have been jealous moments and the odd accident, but Harry has repaid my confidence.
In truth, I ensured he did so, by not banishing him when our child arrived. Harry still gets walked; he’s brushed, fed and played with; and he and our son interact as naturally as possible. And I still train Harry.
Dog training brings many rewards, none as important as the safe relationship between a dog and a new baby in the pack.
© 2007 Robert Fairhead
This article appeared in the Village Voice Eastern-Harbourside in March 2007 and in my dog club newsletter, PawPrints, under the title, When Harry Met Jaiden.
Please note: a dog’s interaction with children should always be monitored. Never leave a dog alone with a young child, even a dependable dog, like Harry!
Welcome to the blog posts and selected writing of a middle-aged dad and dog owner. Robert Fairhead is writer and editor at Tall And True, an online showcase and forum for writers, readers and publishers. His book reviews and other writing have appeared in various print and online media. And he has published two collections of short stories, Both Sides of the Story (2020) and Twelve Furious Months (2021).